Baptisms At an Early Age
Dear Bro. Don,
This letter is directed to the young man who would like to be baptized (2/98, p. 59).
First, I would like to say it is always wonderful to hear a young person say he realizes he must be baptized and is seeking to do so, as it is the only hope of salvation. In our generation that type of enthusiasm is diminishing among the younger generation due to the many worldly influences from society and their peers. I was wondering if your correspondent would consider asking the senior brother what he meant exactly by the advice: “[Baptism would only be appropriate] when I have grown up and settled down and am not going to be tempted any more.” Was the brother really referring to just such a point in his life, or was he trying to tell him something else and possibly the young man did not ask enough questions to see what the brother was actually trying to tell him?
I am sure there are several brothers and sisters who have been baptized as young as 14, and some younger, who have maintained a lifelong, devoted service to the Truth and have brought families and others into the Truth. I would never want to assert what they did was wrong.
On the other hand, I would like to address this issue because my two older brothers and I were baptized at 11 years old. All three of us left the Truth later on in our lives. I was the only one who eventually realized the value of what I had and sought diligently to return. Due to my own life experience, I have acquired a list of 20 individuals who have left the Truth and for whom I pray every day, for God to help them return. It is interesting to note that of the 20 individuals, nine of them were baptized in their early teens.
I, too, was brought up in the Truth and never knew any other religion. My father died of cancer when I was nine and my mother kept saying Christ was due at any moment. I can really understand her eagerness, as the horrific problems she had to face made her yearn for his return and she anticipated it would happen then and relieve her of her suffering. Since my brothers had been baptized young, I also thought it was the best thing to do, especially if Christ was on the doorstep. I was a very lonely child; because we moved so many times and I had difficulty making friends. I thought baptism would be a means of feeling accepted and grown up.
What I had anticipated being baptized would do for me never did come to pass as I grew into my teens and early adulthood. I yearned for friends and a mate. There were always twice as many young girls in the ecclesias as there were young men. I still found difficulty making friends and ended up seeking companionship in the world. I eventually married out of the Truth. I was in my middle twenties and married for a year when the Yom Kippur war broke out in Israel, and Russia was making threats to invade. I came to the stark realization of how close Christ’s return could be. I felt that 11 was too young and I really did not, by any means, comprehend what I was doing at that age so decided to be re-instructed, re-examined and re-baptized since I was a grown, responsible adult who knew what I was doing and why.
My oldest brother and I married out of the Truth. He resents the Truth and is very bitter about the strict way he was brought up. He has suffered so many terrible trials in his life; it makes my heart ache because his suffering has been without prayer or God to reach out to. My other brother came back for a short time, but only to leave along with my mother, who moved into isolation from all fellowships. The two of them break bread at home on a Sunday and he keeps saying, when she dies, he is going to move to a town totally in isolation. This is very sad because it means he will have no ecclesial support of fellowship once she has gone.
Although I married a terrific man, wonderful husband and great father who came from a very upstanding family in the world, he is an atheist, does not believe in God at all, and was very jealous of God and my religion in the early years after I came back to the Truth. Our early years of marriage and raising the children in the Truth were very difficult, with many trying situations to face and with many years of desperate prayer and tears. I did not want to have any children because I felt I could not manage to raise them as God requires. I began to feel very selfish after awhile and so I asked God for two sons and for help to raise them unto Him.
God did bless me with two sons, but the struggle goes on daily with diligent prayer that my sons will one day serve Him and bring honor and glory to His name.
The advice I always gave to my sons and the young people I have met who want to be baptized, and especially parents who are pushing their young people to be baptized, is in the form of a question. “Would you want your daughter or son to be married between the ages of 11 and 16? The usual answer is “No” and it is interesting to hear what they say when you ask, “Why not?” When you marry you make a vow, “for better or worse until death parts.” How much more serious is the vow they are going to make to God? It is a vow to serve God with all your heart and mind, a total dedication of the rest of your life to Him. In a marriage you must learn to give more than you receive, you must learn self sacrifice, carry your share of the responsibility and forsake many opportunities and desires of your heart for the sake of your marriage vows.
Marriage is not always the “happy ever after” of the movies and neither is our walk in the Truth after baptism. It is the beginning of a wilderness journey which teaches us that we have no strength of our own and are entirely dependent upon God. One must realize that it is with “great tribulation we enter the kingdom of God.” This is because our characters need to be molded and our faith strengthened. The decision to be baptized involves a great deal more than just being spared from death. Consider the parallel of the vow of marriage and look at the terrible results in marriages of our day where the marriage vows have been broken. We must realize that the broken vow to God will be even more disastrous and horrific to our lives and the lives of our loved ones at our judgment. May I suggest to any young person who wishes to be baptized to first pick up a concordance and look up the word “vow” and go all the way through scripture on his own, without any advice from others, and find out what it really means to make a vow to God.
If you think about the Lord Jesus Christ, who is our example, he was not baptized until he was 30, even though at 12 he showed his knowledge and wisdom in the temple in Jerusalem. God and Christ knew the appropriate time for him to be baptized. God knows our hearts, He knows our fears, He knows what is best for us. It may be difficult to understand at 14, but youth is a very impatient time of life and the arranging brothers must be sure that the young person truly understands the seriousness and the responsibility of the vow. One thing young people often don’t consider is the fact that the A.B.s we elect are the shepherds of our ecclesial flock and they have a grave and serious responsibility when it comes to baptizing someone. If they baptize individuals who are not aware of the knowledge and responsibility that God requires of them, later on it may lead to ecclesial problems. Our shepherds will have to answer to God if they are not thorough in their instruction and interviews for those seeking baptism.
It is much more important to be baptized into the truth of scripture than just to be baptized so that one may be saved in case of death.
When my oldest son was 18, he came to the conclusion he had been brought up Christadelphian and had never known any other religion and questioned if what we were teaching was the Truth. He decided to seek it out for himself and began to study the teachings and attend the meetings of various churches in our area. He then collected various translations, concordances and even started a study in Hebrew. It reminded me of those at Berea who were “more noble” because they searched the scripture daily and diligently to find out if what Paul had been telling them was “the truth.” He is now 21 and attending college but he still diligently spends a great deal of his spare time studying scripture. He has chosen to do it the hard way, but I feel more assured that, with prayer and God’s guidance, when he is baptized it will not be simply because of a fear of something, but because of a love of God based on the “truth of scripture.”
My final thought is that God knows the heart of our young people. He knew the heart of a very young David, who had a great deal of faith in God in his youth. Before facing Goliath, he had slain a lion and a bear. God gave David many years before he became king and he later received many great and precious promises. In our youth, we must remember God’s care for David in his younger years. Remember those beautiful words of David: “Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; for thou art with me.” I would like to ask our young writer to consider David and his faith in God in his youth. Consider and study the responsibility of what a vow to God is really all about. And finally consider the responsibility to God we place upon our shepherds who must make the final decision as to whether or not we are ready for such a step.
With much love, in hope you will continue to seek God’s way of scriptural truth and baptism.
A Concerned Sister
We thank our sister for expressing her point of view, and take this opportunity to comment on some of her thoughts.
Vow-making not part of the gospel
Firstly, we did as suggested and read through the verses on making a vow and noted some interesting points.
- Making a vow is closely linked with swearing an oath: “If a man vow a vow unto the Lord, or swear an oath to bind his soul with a bond…” (Num. 30:20). Oath-making is forbidden disciples of Christ: “But I say unto you, Swear not at all…” (Matt. 5:34-37); “Swear not, neither by heaven, neither by the earth, neither by any other oath: but let your yea be yea; and your nay, nay; lest ye fall into condemnation” (James 5:12).
Since that which is closely linked with vow-making is forbidden, we looked more carefully at the whole idea of vows and the gospel. And this is what we found:
- Vows are nowhere associated with the commands of Christ. Paul does make a vow to reach Jerusalem by a certain feast date and four Jewish Christians took a vow in Jerusalem (Acts 18:18; 21:23). In both cases, however, it is clear Jewish believers were performing rites of the old order that was passing away.
- When making urgent appeals to live up to the new life in Christ, appeal is never made to a vow taken at baptism (cp. Rom. 12:1; I Cor. 6; Eph. 4:22ff; James 1:22ff, etc.). As illustrated in the sister’s foregoing letter, if it were appropriate, an appeal to our baptismal vows would be a most effective springboard for a strong exhortation to right conduct. This approach is not used, however.
- In looking at the use of “promise” and “covenant” in the New Testament, frequent reference is made to God’s promises to us and His covenant with us, but we never read of our promises to God or our covenant with Him.
Is speaking of baptismal “vows” appropriate?
We asked ourselves, Why is this? Is our frequent reference to baptismal vows inappropriate?
It probably is! Making a vow, promise or covenant implies ability to fulfill the terms. We try to love God with all our heart, soul, mind and body, but we know we all fall woefully short. As a result, we very thankfully enter into God’s covenant, relying on His gracious forgiveness of sins and being abundantly thankful that He counts our faith in Him as righteousness.
Christ baptized at 30
The Lord’s situation was markedly different from our own for the following reasons:
- John Baptist’s baptism was specifically a baptism of repentance for the forgiveness of sins, of which Jesus had none.
- Jesus was born Son of God and heir of the promises. He did not need to be baptized into this relationship, as we do.
- The baptism of Jesus was to begin his ministry with a public acknowledgment he was one of the race, the Son of man, and would benefit from his own saving work.
- Thirty years old was the minimum age for a priest to assume his full duties suggesting this would be the appropriate age for the Lord to begin his public instruction and reprimand of all elements of the nation, including the priests.
- John Baptist’s ministry was a transition time between the old and new covenants. Baptism into the death and resurrection of Christ was not fully implemented until he had nailed the law to the cross and had been raised to newness of life (note Col. 2:11-15).
Accordingly, we do not feel the Lord’s action sets any precedent for delaying baptism until age 30.
Delaying baptism not good
If a person is full of earnest conviction for the gospel and evidences a sincere conscience toward God, age should not be a primary consideration. Better to complete one’s maturation process (physical and spiritual) forgiven of sins and united with Christ, than remain alienated from him, still in our sins. Even Peter’s conversion was not fully complete until years after his baptism for the Lord said, “When you are converted…” (Luke 22:32).
Therefore we can expect to do much spiritual growing after baptism even, in some cases, completing the process of conversion to the way of Christ.